Monday, March 27, 2017

Travel Approval!

We are so excited to share with you all that we have received travel approval!!

What does this mean? It means that we now have permission to travel to China. All our paperwork is lined up, and most importantly we have an appointment scheduled with the US Consulate in Guangzhou to receive Ruth's visa to get back into the US.

We are planning to leave for China on May 10 around 11:45 am. With travel times and the time difference (they are 12 hours ahead of us), we will arrive in Beijing around 1:45 pm on May 11. We have the tremendous opportunity to visit with Ruthie's foster family and Ruth for the first few days we are in China. We will then escort Ruth to her home province in southern China. We will be in Nanning, Guangxi for about a week to finalize the adoption, then fly to Guangzhou. We will be in Guangzhou for almost a week then fly home on May 26.

This also means that I will be closing my Etsy shop and business on April 30. I do not know when I will be able to reopen but will be sure to let everyone know if/when that happens.

There is still a significant amount of work for us to do before we travel. Not only are we arranging details for Trent and I to be in China for two weeks, we are also arranging for the care of our older four girls, their meals while we are away, and writing down all the details of running a household for our niece, Zoey, to care for while we are gone. We are doing our best to prepare to take the best possible care of Ruthie and all the things necessary to keep her as contented as possible during multiple flights in the first few days of knowing each other and living out of hotels for two weeks.

We are continually grateful for the help of our families and friends. So many people are working together all for the greater good of this one little girl. She is so very special and we can't wait to share her photos and videos with you all.

Monday, February 27, 2017

Adoption Paperwork Update!

After a quiet and frustrating few weeks we finally have lots of positive movement regarding our adoption paperwork.

Tuesday, February 21, 2017 we received Ruth's immigration approval in the mail! We filed for this on January 10 and since I missed a signature on one of the documents we had to wait longer to receive this approval. It felt like a VERY long 6 weeks.

After we received immigration approval we were told it would take about 1-2 weeks for the National Visa Center to send us a letter confirming they have notified the U.S. Consulate in Guangzhou that our I-800 (immigration) was issued. We were AMAZED and grateful that this was sent via email the very next day (Wednesday, February 22, 2017).

Since we had the letter from NVC we could file for DS-260 (which is for Ruth's visa to come to the U.S.) We filed for this on Thursday, Feb. 23. Also on Thursday, Trent and my visas to get into China arrived in the mail! So as you can see, last week was extremely exciting for our family. It felt like so many pieces were finally coming together.

So now what? We are actually done filing paperwork! Now we just wait for the wheels to turn. The Consulate will issue an Article 5 notice to request our travel approval. This can take 3-4 weeks. Once travel approval is issued that can take another 2-3 weeks. After we receive travel approval we plan our trip to China 3-5 weeks later! We were told sometimes these things come through more quickly, but those are the average estimates.

Our agency plans two trip to China per month based on the provinces, so the province Ruth is from would come up for a trip once per month. We were told there could be a possibility to travel in April. However, based on Trent's work schedule and the kids' school schedule, even if that trip is possible we have decided it will be best for our family to travel in May.

The tentative dates are May 12-26, give or take a couple days. Trent and I will be traveling alone. My oldest niece, Zoey, is going to be staying at our home taking care of the girls with help from grandparents. This arrangement is another tremendous benefit of waiting until May to travel. Zoey will finish her semester at Temple University earlier in the week before we travel, and our girls will finish their homeschool year at the same time. We are so grateful that our girls will have the consistency and stability of sleeping in their own beds and being in their home for 2 weeks and enjoying these two weeks of summer vacation with their cousin. As much as they would love to be with their grandparents and Mema the back and forth is very exhausting for them.

While we are so very eager to bring our darling poppet home, we know that this is going to be a hard transition. Ruth has two foster sisters who are extremely devoted to her. They have been her sisters for nearly a year. Would you pray for them? We know the pain associated with letting go of a foster child you love dearly, and our hope is for these girls and their parents to understand just how important their role in Ruth's life is. Ruth joined their family as a very, very weak and frail child. With their tender care she gained strength to stand, walk and now even run! She gained enough weight to have her lip surgically repaired. They cared for her after her surgery. They are the ones doing the hard work of loving and letting go. Pray for them, especially the girls, who are four and seven years old.

Thanks for following along on our adoption journey. The best is yet to come.

Friday, February 17, 2017

Standing Still

The past couple of weeks have been extremely difficult. We have been waiting for weeks to receive our immigration approval. We were told to expect three to four weeks. After four weeks we received in the mail an envelope from USCIS. Unfortunately the paper was pink, which immediately caused me to worry. The letter informed us that they could not process our immigration at that time because one of our papers was unsigned.

I had built up in my mind that we could potentially be traveling in April. As soon as I received that letter I knew there wouldn't be a way (barring a miracle) that the rest of our paperwork would come together for an April trip to China.

We signed the paper and sent it back to immigration and are STILL waiting to hear back from them (they received it a full week ago). We have filed for our visas and should hear back from them in a week or two.

Right now I feel as if we are standing still. There are no other documents that we can file until we hear back from immigration, and now I have no idea how long that will be.

I hesitated even to say anything publicly for multiple reasons. First, I feel like I let myself down; I let my family down, I let Ruth down, and I let everyone who financially contributed to our adoption down. And second, I felt very guilty. It was my responsibility to make sure all the papers were in order and all signed in the proper places. But I missed one and because of my mistake it will delay our travel.

I have been very grateful for the women in my Bible study and my best friend for helping me through this. I started feeling rather depressed. While I'm generally an optimistic person I was having a hard time pulling through this dip in the road.

Thinking from a place of emotion is not the most healthy way to make decisions. I released the timing of the adoption back to God. You see, I realized that I had depended on God the entire way through the adoption. And all of a sudden I was taking everything into my own hands and almost telling God, "It's okay. I've got this now. I don't need your help." Ha! Actually, I do need Him. Very much so.

It was quite easy to come up with a lot of reasons why a May travel date would actually work better for our family. My main hold up was quite simply that I miss my baby. We are blessed to have a steady stream of photos and videos of her in addition to weekly FaceTime. I feel so connected to her already that in my mind, any possible way I could rush ahead and get her in my arms is best.

Here are a few reasons I came up with to remind me of why May is better.
1. Our older girls will be finished with the school year. *which really is HUGE* It means I don't have any more teaching to do with them until the fall and we can all just focus on helping Ruthie adjust and take her to medical appointments and prepare her for surgery.
2. There's a very good chance my niece will be able to stay with the girls the full two weeks instead of having them flip flop houses every few days.
3. We won't miss Abbey's birthday (but we WILL miss Ruth's birthday in April)
4. The weather should be lovely for traveling

I know in my head that everything will work out and it will be wonderful. That's hard to tell my Mama-heart. If you think of it, would you pray for us? Pray that the remainder of the paperwork will come together and we can trust that all these pieces will come together.

Xoxo,
Mama Hess

Friday, February 3, 2017

Entryway Make Over

It's been awhile since I've done a home project. I love to freshen things up with paint. We painted nearly the entire house when we bought it almost four years ago. The one thing we did not paint were the doors and trim (although we bought trim paint and it's been in the basement ever since!).

I got it in my head that I really should paint our entry way door. Why? I have no idea. This, obviously, is more a project for me as I'm the one who will see it.
BEFORE
The project started out because Anne really wanted me to paint a sign that said, "East or West, Home is Best." We had read it in one of the Little House books by Laura Ingalls Wilder (I can't remember which one, but I'm sure Annie could tell you.) Pa had just gotten home after being away for months as there was no work for him nearby. He got home and said this, "East or West, home is best." Apparently this had been a common saying back in that time as I've since found some really old stitched samplers that say "travel east, travel west, after all home is best."

The sign I made for above the door is 6 feet long. I have had that particular board in my garage for about a year and a half. The back of the wood has many cracks running all the way through it. I knew if I ever cut the board it would split all to pieces and be useless. I wasn't sure what I would ever do with it until the inspiration struck! It ended up being the perfect piece for my home, and I don't have to worry that it would sometime crack in a customer's house.

After scouring Pinterest for ideas, I finally struck upon wanting a really dark front door as our trim paint we already had is a very very bright white.

Once I had the door painted a friend stopped by. Vanessa suggested painting those inserts the same color as the door. I knew it would be added work, but I loved her idea!

DURING
Since I love paint, I've been really eager to try Magnolia Home's new line of paint. My dad gave me a gift card for Christmas so I went for it, as this was a special treat for me! After much debating I went with the color Blackboard with a Matte finish. I am SO happy with the result. The paint is a very thick paint. Even so, it did take two coats to cover the white that the door was before.

This is when I was half regretting Vanessa's suggestion! Lots of work to get those little trim pieces. They still aren't perfect, but good enough for me!


The wreath was a great find at Home Goods

AFTER
Like I said, I'm really pleased with the result. Looking at it makes me feel so happy!

Saturday, January 28, 2017

The Year of....

SELF-CONTROL.

Each year we choose a word to focus on as a family.

We have decided 2017 will be the Year of Self-Control. This was Abbey's idea. I liked it because self-control can look like a lot of different things.

A big one in our home full of girls is self-control of our emotions. This will likely be the way most of our children (and let's be honest, me) will place our focus this year.

But Self-Control can also look like a lot of other things:
FOOD
-the way we eat
-what we eat
-how much we eat
MONEY
-the way we spend money
-what we spend money on
-how much money we spend
TIME
-the way we spend our time
-what we do with our time
-how much time we spend on certain things

The list can go on, but Emotions, Food, Money, and Time are the four areas I want to try to focus on most in 2017. In general, on a personal level, I don't struggle terribly with food or really even too much with money. I tend to lean towards being conservative in many aspects of my life (other than having children. Give me all the babies).

I was inspired by a friend to not buy any clothes for a year (read her blog or buy her little book on how to do it at Green Chair Stories). Trent is also a rather conservative guy, and doesn't enjoy too much that would be considered "extreme". I am personally going to attempt in 2017 not to buy any clothes for myself for the whole year. The only exception I am going to make is while we are in China, I may buy a traditional Chinese outfit for myself because who can say if I'll go back to China any time soon? It has been interesting, even just in January, how I realized that I have become an impulse shopper because shopping online is SO easy. It has been really good for me to be more self-aware of the way I spend time scrolling through online shops and purchasing a couple things because they are cute.

The girls will certainly be working on self-control in it's most basic form. Emotions. Each of our girls struggle in their own way. Most commonly we see frustration boil over into tears, or quickly lashing out at another sister, or running out of the room crying, or anger. I plan to be very intentional on helping them through those things this year, mostly with prayer and calming techniques.

Obviously this year will look very different in a couple months. We will be adding a fifth daughter to the mix, she will be having surgery, and we will all be adjusting. I am thankful that we have a another two to three months to work with the oldest four girls before we bring Ruth home and begin a whole new adjustment period. I'm sure it will give the girls time to practice their newfound skills as we all work to show each other grace and understanding.

I hope 2017 will be a fantastic year for you all! Looking forward to another year of blogging!

 

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

LOA, A Giving Opportunity & Her Name!

We were surprised to have our agency call us on Friday, January 6, 2017 to let us know our LOA (Letter of Approval) arrived from China. This was about three weeks earlier than we anticipated. Today, January 10, we sent off a massive pile of documents to USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services). We anticipate that approval to come through in about 3-4 weeks. 

We are also grateful to have received a matching grant from Brittany's Hope. Your TAX DEDUCTIBLE donation can be given online HERE. We need to raise $1,500 in order to have that amount matched equally by Brittany's Hope, bringing us to $3,000 to put toward our adoption expenses. We thank you all for your generosity toward changing the life of our little girl and helping us bring her home. As a special thank you to all who donate through this site I will be emailing you our daughter's most recent photos and provide you with updates as we receive them.

We have slowly been telling family and friends our daughter's name. We are tremendously grateful that her foster family speaks English and are calling her by her new name.

Ruth Veronica Hess
All of our daughters have very special family names, and Ruth fits right in with her four older sisters. Ruth was my great-grandmother's name and means "Loyal Friend". And there have been many amazing Hess women who have had the name Ruth. Our girls have been calling her Ruthie, and we intend to use both Ruth and Ruthie interchangeably. I'm a huge fan of nick names for my daughters: Annie, Abbey, Maggie, Carrie, and Ruthie. Isn't it perfect? 

One of my favorite books of the Bible is Ruth. As I was reading the book again and came upon this well-known verse I felt how fitting it was for our daughter.

Ruth 1:16 "But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God." 

Ruth was a Moabitess woman, a foreigner. She declares to her mother-in-law that she will not leave her, claiming her husband's family to be her family, and their God, her God. It is my prayer that our daughter, a lovely Chinese girl, will one day proclaim these words for herself. That she will feel as completely Hess as all our other girls, and most importantly that she will claim our God as her own.

Veronica is a very old Hess family name. Originally in our genealogy books it is spelled Fronica. It's always been a name Trent has been especially fond of. It means "True Victory". And with a short first name I like the sound of a long middle name. 

So there you have it! Another Hess girl is on her way! We are so excited to introduce Ruthie to you all in person. 

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Adoption Update: The Final Stages

January 4, 2016 we filled out our application to adopt from China.

By January 4, 2017 we completed our home study, sent our dossier to China, were matched, and our LOI has been uploaded! (LOI was uploaded 12/27/16)

So what's next in the process? Mostly waiting.

1. We wait about 4 weeks from our LOI date for our LOA (Letter of Approval) to come from China.
2. We apply for our I-800 (Immigration): 3-4 weeks of waiting for this document
3. Wait for NVC (National Visa Center) Letter: Another 1-2 weeks
4. DS-260 filing and Article 5: 3-4 weeks
5. Travel Approval: 2-3 weeks
6. Arrange travel dates: 3-5 weeks after receiving TA (travel approval)

This ending part of the process looks a lot like the beginning of the process; filing an official document and waiting for the government (US or China) to approve it.

Based on these rough numbers we are estimating that we will travel in either April or May. While that seems really far and like a long time to wait, we trust that God's timing is perfect.

There is much to be done here to prepare for our daughter's arrival. I am excited to begin working on her room, start pulling out her big sisters' hand-me-downs, and purchasing a few special things that are all her own. We have learned that she loves headbands and hair clips, dollies, and blocks. Yes, friends, I believe we will get along just fine with daughter number five.